The Messy Middle

I lost a client to the “messy middle” this week.

I had a client who e-mailed me this week and decided to discontinue their coaching sessions before they realized the goal they set when they began the coaching process. They fell victim to what I have come to refer as the “messy middle.”

The messy middle is a term I use to describe the middle process of coaching. When my client begins with me they are in a honeymoon phase and excited to start the process of life change. However, after the initial excitement has worn off they enter into a period of disillusionment. This is where the change becomes a little more difficult to maintain and some lose sight of the initial vision that brought them to coaching.

Sometimes, people lose hope and decide that the change is too difficult and they sink back into old habits in their comfort zone. This is always disappointing for me to see and I wish they would stick with it to realize the full benefit of coaching and realizing their goals.

If you are in a period where you are in the process of change and you are becoming disillusioned I want to encourage you today to stick with it! This phase will pass. Don’t give up. You aren’t alone in feeling this week and it is one of the stages of change. The clients I have that stick with the process through the messy middle come out so thankful on the other end.

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About the Author:

Graham Honeycutt is a professional life coach and motivational speaker. He helps individuals and organizations overcome their greatest challenges so they can achieve success and significance. His coaching journey began when he started writing a blog in 2013 about his oldest daughter Mikayla. She was born with a rare congenital brain malformation called Dandy Walker Syndrome and has significant special needs. Graham lives in Nashville, Tennessee, with his wife Heather who works at Dave Ramsey's company. They also have have twin daughters named Ainsley & Hailey, in addition to Mikayla. You can connect with him through his website at

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